Ep 3 Divine Worth Podcast: 100 Days of Stepping Outside Your Comfort Zone with Becca Obeng

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Welcome to the divine worth podcast, where we are letting go of our self doubt anxiety, fear, and limiting beliefs so that we can step into the divine roles that God has for us. I am your host life coach, Karen Papin, and together we are embracing our divine worth.

Karen Papin: Welcome to the divine worth podcast.

I’m excited to have a guest on today. Her name is Becca Obeng.

Becca Obeng: Oh, bang. Yep. Oh, and a bang

Karen Papin: got it. She is the creator of becoming undaunted a platform used to help individuals build confidence while also bringing Christ into their story. She is known for doing 100 days out of her comfort zone challenges and loves the feeling of connecting with others throughout it.

She has a love of good. We’re good food, quality time with those she loves and being a listening ear to those around her and Becca, I’m welcome. Thank you so much for joining us today. Thanks for having [00:01:00] me. I’m so excited. Well, I’m excited too. I, I’m really excited because one of the things that draw me to you was this focus that you have on.

Stepping outside your comfort zone and, and bringing Christ into that as well. And so I would love to hear kind of how you got started with these 100 day challenges and kind of who, who were you before and, and what led you

Becca Obeng: to starting them. Yeah, I’ll just kind of give you all of the juicy details then because I feel like you kind of have to rewind.

So if you were to meet me when I was younger, I remember my best friend’s mom. So I went to EFY when I was 14 and, I remember coming back and she’s like, you talk? I thought that you were like a mute and you didn’t talk at all. And this is like my best friend’s mom. So I’m like, If you’re my best friend’s mom, you should probably know, like, I do talk.

And so I used to be painfully shy and really timid. And as I grew up, I started, you know, getting a [00:02:00] little bit more talkative here and there. But I was like, I’ve always been a very sensitive person. Like, I cry easily. I will, Get really intimidated very easily and so I just noticed I didn’t really put myself out there for a lot of things.

I always thought it’d be really cool to do, you know, maybe like to get a gold medal at the Olympics or, you know, to do all these different goals and dreams, but it Never seemed like it was ever for me or ever something like I could actually ever go and do. It was just, that’d be a cool, the end. And , I went and served my mission in New York city, and I learned very quickly how to not be very sensitive because you got to have a little bit of thick skin out of there.

And as I was on my mission, I developed this confidence that I had never had before I had gained so much weight. I had horrible skin. I had the worst haircut I’ve ever had, but I had never been so confident in my entire life. And I look back at that experience and I was putting myself out of my comfort [00:03:00] zone every day.

I got spit on. I had people throw things at me. I had people yell at me, cuss me out, slam doors, chase me, you know, All of the things, but here I was loving every second of it. And I noticed that the two things about my mission was that yeah, I was stepping out of my comfort zone and that I learned what the gospel of Jesus Christ was like truly learned what it was not just like a I know it’s true like You know, I I always thought when I said like I know that this church is true that Like it just meant the building.

I didn’t really mean like, know that there was like a gospel. Like I went to seminary. I did all the things. I didn’t really realize that, there was like a gospel of Jesus Christ. And so I started to learn that, you know, Jesus and stepping out of my comfort zone were two things that really helped me become the person that I am now.

And so, As time went on, I knew that I wanted to share this message of, you know, like go out and go do something. And, you know, I knew that I wanted to incorporate Christ. And so I came up with the name [00:04:00] Becoming Undaunted, and then I had my first daughter and then it kind of got put on the shelf. So I got the name and I like, Made like the designs of a website.

And then motherhood kind of took over and I put it up on the shelf. And then I had my second daughter and I was like, you know what, I’m going to dust off that becoming undaunted thing. And I was like, but this time I’m going to do social media. That’s when like video started to come out on Instagram like a really big deal.

And so I remember like posting my very first video and I had like my little daughter in my arms and I was like, yeah, I’m going to talk about self confidence because I feel like as a mom, a new mom, I’m not Don’t really have much, and I didn’t really have much to begin with, so I wanna talk about like, how do you even gain confidence?

So then it became into this quest of how do I find confidence? And then that got put on the shelf and then I had my third child. So you can clearly see there’s a pattern. Every time I had a child I’m like, I’m gonna go and do something. But then I had my third son, and that time everything was different.

I remember I had this very distinct experience that I needed to put on a [00:05:00] woman’s conference, and I was like, I don’t know how. But I’m going to do it. And I remember telling my husband, I’m like, Hey, I’m putting on a woman’s conference and these are the people I’m emailed and I’m going to do it on this day.

And he’s like, okay. And he noticed that there was something different about that experience because he’s like, you’ve always had all these goals and dreams, but you’ve never actually. Really done anything like maybe it will last three weeks and then it will kind of like go, you know, fall off the rails.

And he’s like, but there was something different about this. And then I, that day I was like, I emailed a bunch of the people like dream speakers. If I could have those speakers, I just was like, I’m going to email them and then forget it. And if they never reply, The end, but then the next day that they replied and they said yes.

And so I’m like, okay, I’m going to do this. And so that became this rollercoaster of a journey of trying to figure out how to put on a conference. And it was the most nerve wracking thing I’d ever done, but I was so proud of myself for stepping into like this unknown and throwing myself. And I felt like I walked away with so much more confidence [00:06:00] after doing something that I, you know, really didn’t think I was capable of doing.

And. Three days later, I had, like, two negative comments about the review of just really, like, tiny things in the conference. I could have done better and it derailed me. I, it was like, I never want to do that again. I want nothing to do with becoming undaunted. And I did not listen to the hundreds of compliments, but I chose to stick to the two things that just, you know, Like we’re negative and I let it completely derail me.

And so I didn’t touch anything with becoming undaunted for what felt like at least six months. And I had just got all this steam and this traction from, you know, doing this conference and I was just like, no, this isn’t going to be it. And I just remember like every time that I said, I’m going to quit and I’m not going to do this.

I just kept feeling this nudge from the Lord, just saying like, you gotta, you gotta keep going. Don’t give up. And I’m like, okay, like I’m doing this for you. And so one day I’m like, okay. I like the social media making video things. I don’t know if I’ll do the conferences anymore. Maybe I’ll try a [00:07:00] podcast.

And so then I tried a podcast and I loved it. And I had such incredible speakers. I had, you know, Adassa from Dolores from Encanto and just all these amazing people that I’m like, why are they saying yes to me? Well, like I just emailed them. I had like 80 followers. Like it wasn’t even like I had this.

Well thing, and they’re like, yes, like we want, you know, you to interview us. Like, I don’t know why they said yes. And , anyways, again, that got put on pause. And so I just kept feeling like every time I would take a step forward, it was like, Not quite there. I got a lot of experience, but maybe not quite right.

And the one thing that had stayed consistent was just working on social media, just kind of making posts here and there, and there was one night. So throughout this time, part of the reason why the podcast got put on Put on pause was because we moved across the country and that was a really big thing for us.

So I was like, you know, I can only handle so many things. So I’ve, I put that just on the back burner, but I kept up with the social media and did things here and there. And so when we finally got settled into our rental, while we were waiting for [00:08:00] our house to be built in our new location, I remember saying a prayer and I was like, okay, Lord, like, I, I need to figure out what I’m doing, what this is, like, what am I doing?

I’m just kind of all over the place. Am I doing conferences? Am I doing podcasts? Like, is it even about self confidence? Like what even are we doing? And I couldn’t tell you how, but all I know is that all of a sudden on my screen, I was on this guy’s website that looked like it was made in the nineties.

Like it was just like super old school. Like. Yeah, it looks like a website that hadn’t been touched in a long time. And there was this guy named judge John, and he was talking about how he did rejection therapy and I was like, okay, like, that’s cool. And so he was talking about how every day for a hundred days, he did something to purposely be rejected.

So he went up to Krispy Kreme and was like, can you make me an Olympic shaped donut? And they’re like, sure. And so then they like. Help figure that out. And he’s like, you were supposed to say no. Like he like started to do all of these things that would help him face the [00:09:00] fear of rejection. And as soon as I saw that, I’m like, I know I need to do that.

And there was something in my soul that was just like, yes, like, this is what you need to do. And so, yeah, I just felt like the prayer that I had asked for to help me figure out what direction to go after years of sifting and, you know, going through it, you know, Forward and back and, you know, a little chunk here and a little chunk there.

All of a sudden it just made sense. And so I thought about it for a week and I would talk to my friends and my family. Like, I think I’m going to do this thing where I like get rejected. And the more I started thinking about it, I’m like, You know, I, I think I need more than just rejection. I think I just need to like choose to just do something instead of just like, I think that’s almost too much for me to just get rejected.

I was looking back at that experience from the conference where there was like negative reviews and I’m like, okay, but, I know I have other areas in my life that I need to improve. And so that’s where I decided to make it about. Going out of my comfort zone instead of just rejection, because , I felt like there’s this larger scope for me and throughout this whole [00:10:00] journey.

 I had just learned, like, I would read self help book after self help book. And there was just all these different tips of if you do this, and if you do that, like, if you brush your teeth and look in the mirror and smile at yourself, then like. You’re good. Like you got confidence. Or if you drink this special drink and wake up at 7 a.

m, set your alarm, you know, go and do this. And like, it’s like, fantastic. Great tips. But I just felt like no matter what I’m going through my life, whether it’s hard, whether the tips are working or not, Christ is going to be the one that gives me actual confidence. He’s the answer to everything going wrong.

Whether, you know, I’m doing everything right, Everything that I absolutely can to train for this marathon, whether or not I win first place or not, he’s going to be the one picking me up and picking up the pieces. If I’m crawling, you know, just crying on the floor, he’s going to be the one that if I have stuff going on with my family and I can’t even focus on what I’m wanting to work on through this, he’s the answer.

And so I just was like, I can’t leave him out. Like I can’t go forward with becoming undaunted and talk about all these really [00:11:00] fun, cool challenges, but then leave him behind. And so then I was like, well. I’m going to bring both together because there’s a lot of people out there talking about rejection therapy and talking about , yeah, just doing all these challenges, but there’s not a lot of people like bringing both together.

So that was a really, really long answer. I’m so sorry. I, you do not get the short story, but that’s a really long answer of just kind of how that, like, all cumulated. It just wasn’t like 1 day. I was like, this is it. It was a lot of like, trying to figure out and even still, I’m like, Okay. What happens after a hundred days?

You know, like what, what am I doing next? And so it’s this constant evolving theme, but, overall, yeah, I just, I love Jesus and I love, the, this experience of going out of my comfort zone, so I’m not sure if you have any more specific questions, but that was just kind of the background.

Karen Papin: But that is awesome.

I, I love hearing your story and, and it’s fun for me to hear your story because I. I was someone who really struggled to speak to other [00:12:00] people. Yeah. No, I would hide behind the couch. And , and so, it’s been like this step by step process of the Lord helping me to be able to step outside my comfort zone in order to do what I’m doing today.

And so hearing your story, it’s like, yes, this is amazing because you are talking about the ways that he was there for you. And, one of the things that I really thought was interesting was, the patience. that the Lord had for you throughout all of this. It’s like you would, you would start something and then things would come up.

You’d have a child, which I totally get. and then you would feel prompted to do something else. And so you would do it and then something else would come up. And so it’s been like these step by steps for you. And the Lord’s telling you, you can do this throughout all of it.

Becca Obeng: Yeah. No, I absolutely love that. And I think sometimes we think like, Oh, if we have something that’s interrupting us, we need [00:13:00] to have it all derail or we just need to be done or like, Oh, that’s it. Like, I guess I can’t do that anymore. The end. But I’ve learned that like each season, each little adjustment here and there gave me the experience that I needed for the next step that the Lord had for me.

Like if I wouldn’t have learned the lessons with my first daughter, I wouldn’t be ready for that next little nugget. When I had, you know, that next. Wave of things. And I felt like each phase of life, even with moving and putting the podcast, you know, on the back burner, I’ve been able to learn and grow and springboard me for that next thing, which I think that sometimes, yeah, we just are so quick to throw in the towel and just be like, nope, like that’s it, or sometimes the world will tell us like, if you don’t show up every single day, like.

You’re a loser, you know, like you, you’re never going to go anywhere. Like you have to show up every day and like, you know, those really intense, like pump up things. And it’s like, Whoa, like sometimes you need to go slow. Sometimes you’re like, your family does come first, you know, some of those things like, you know, do take a priority, but it doesn’t mean you can’t take 15 minutes every day to work on it or 10 minutes, you know, [00:14:00] or, you know, an hour here and there to just add little drops because then eventually it will become.

Into something, if you just have that consistent effort over time. And so, yeah, I love that, that point as well. Like the Lord has been so patient with me and known when to say like, okay, now you can handle a little bit more and like, now’s a good time to pull back. And so he’s been doing the dance with me and helping me, you know, know the choreography of when to take a step this way or that way.

And so it’s been a fantastic ride.

Karen Papin: That’s amazing. I’m really, I, I once heard of. Someone who I wish I remembered his name, but he would like, write down his failures and his goal was to have like 3 big failures a month or something like that, which, you know, when you’re talking about stepping out your 100 days of stepping outside your comfort zone, it’s kind of.

Kind of like that. You have some successes and then you have some failures too, or things that didn’t go as well. But what it did for [00:15:00] this person was he started succeeding on a much bigger level because he was willing to put himself out there and to start taking chances. And, and so I, I love hearing those.

Experiences where, Hey, I put myself out there and it was hard and maybe it didn’t work out the way that I wanted it to go, but I did it. And when we can focus on the fact that, Hey, I did it. There’s so much joy that comes from

Becca Obeng: that. It’s so true. It’s been a life changing feeling for me of just that, like I did this.

And for me, it’s been that faith step of, and like bringing in the Lord on that journey. It’s helped me realize when he asks me to do something, when I have a prompting to do something, a lot of times that is out of my comfort zone. And so the more repetition that I’ve had on being comfortable with failure, or maybe looking really.

Weird or awkward or dumb, or like, I don’t know. What will those people think of me? It helps me then raise my hand to say, you know [00:16:00] what? Yeah. Ask me to do that really hard thing. Because if I could do those other uncomfortable things that you’ve asked me, those were just training wheels. So now like, let’s get cruising.

And so it’s been incredible just seeing, like before I’m like the word failure, the word, like rejection, just all those things like, Oh, like. Just I couldn’t even breathe. Like it just takes the breath away from me. Just thinking like of how I typically respond to just thinking that things will go bad. And now I’m like.

Bring it on, like, you know, like, even though I don’t actually mean that, I kind of mean it, you know, like, I’m like, don’t actually bring it on, but like, bring it on. And so it’s an amazing just how it’s flipped and how the Lord’s been able to just help me see his hand through every step of it.

Karen Papin: I would like to hear if you have like a specific experience where you really felt, Hey, the Lord believes in me and he believes I can do this.

Becca Obeng: Yeah. Oh, that’s a great, a great one. There’s been a lot of them. There’s been [00:17:00] a bunch that I’m actually currently working. You can get a little sneak peek of things that I’m currently working on that haven’t like been full circle and one of them is writing a children’s book about One of the experiences that I’ve shared on social media a lot about like how broken crayons still color I’m not sure if you’ve heard me share that so Story before one day, my daughter was so angry and she was coloring with her crayon and it snapped in half and my husband came up and he rubbed her back.

And he’s like, sweetie, broken crayons, still color. And I was standing there. I’m like, did he even realize what he just said? And I’m like crying. I’m like, that’s so beautiful. Like broken crayons, still color. That’s like me. And I was just like, Mind blown at that. Phrase and it, I took it like a step further of thinking about the savior that like, We are the broken crayons and we still color.

We are still like beloved children. No matter what mistakes we make no matter You know how broken our bodies may feel no matter what experiences we are going through We still color because we’re his, but he will then take all of the brokenness and make [00:18:00] us holy. And just like how a crayon can be melted and remolded, we can be too with him and the atonement of Jesus Christ.

We can be and, so, writing that book has been something that has helped me feel like I can do this. Like this story. It might not matter to anybody else, but like it matters because it’s my story and like my children and my grandkids can all like read and hear about that. One day, so that’s a little sneak peek to come.

 But yeah, there is, there’s really so many. I just feel like I’ve come Closer to the Lord, where I’ve throughout this journey, felt him in a way where I am like my heavenly father’s child. And he just like a proud parent is like, I’m so proud that you did that, sweetie. Like, I know those fears that you have.

And when I see my daughter go and do something that absolutely terrifies her, I know the meaning of that celebration. And I think that it’s been the same experience that heavenly father, like. He knows the [00:19:00] meaning of my celebration and he’s like right there just saying like, I see you and I know how hard that is for you.

And I’m here celebrating with you and there’s been times where he’s taken my hand and he’s like carried me and I’m like, I don’t want to do that. Why, why, why are you making me do this? Like, this is so silly. Like, why am I going and like knocking on this door of some person’s house to ask them like who the designer is?

Because I think it’s cool. Like, what is the purpose? Like, what are you trying to teach me in this? Like, sure, maybe we’ll get a couple likes on social media. Like why? And throughout it, it’s just been. This incredible experience of just like feeling him of like, do you trust me? And like I mentioned a little bit before, it feels like this training wheel experience of, you know, what else is ahead for the future.

Like I’ve been able to see more of the vision that he has for me in a sense of who I can become if I’m willing to step out of my comfort zone and let him. Comfort me like by [00:20:00] getting out of my comfort zone. I don’t know if that makes sense. But yeah, it’s just been a really Incredible experience and I can say like honestly with every single experience.

I’ve had a very spiritual, like mirrored experience with the uncomfyness of it

Karen Papin: I, I often say that I’m actually thankful for my anxiety because it has brought me closer to the Lord.

It’s

like when I get up to speak, I have all those anxious emotions, like my heart pounding and the tightness in my chest.

And my I’m like, I will visibly shake right before I speak. And yet when I open my mouth, It’s peace just comes over me and it’s happened time and time again. And so I know that the Lord is there and that he believes in me and that he will help me to be able to make my weaknesses [00:21:00] become strong. Thank you for sharing your experience about, about that.

And I look forward to that children’s book. Would love to share that with, with my kids too., I often say that my kids are some of the bravest. People I know, because they’re a lot like, like you and me when we were younger and, and yet like each day they’re going to school and they’re, they’re interacting with other people and they’re stepping outside their comfort zone.

And I just hope that they come to understand just how much, how accomplished and how much joy that that brings. Because you’re growing and sometimes we have like these negative views of failure. Like we hear the word failure. I’m like, I failed. It can feel so hard, heartbreaking sometimes. And yet that is proof that we are trying.

And each time we go out, [00:22:00] there is. Is us showing that we are willing to continue to listen to those promptings that the Lord’s giving us and continuing to try to embrace what God sees in us. What do you think are some of the things that have like, really, what really keeps you from, from going out there and, and stepping outside your comfort zone?

Becca Obeng: Yeah. Like things that kind of hold me back where I don’t want to.

Karen Papin: Yeah.

Becca Obeng: Oh, so many things. I think for me, like. Yeah, it’s, I think it just depends. Like one of the ones that I’ve continually like keep working on are ones that work with other people, like social ones. There’s like this like social anxiety. I remember like one of my very first challenges, it was the phone roulette where I had to go through my phone and my husband would say, stop.

And whoever landed on, I had to call and it landed on like a boy that I was friends with in junior [00:23:00] high. And so I like, and it was almost a midnight. And so I’m like calling him and. Like, there’s been, you know, dozens and dozens where it’s just, you know, strangers in Walmart or, you know, people like, I live in Orlando.

So it’s like people at Disney Springs that I started like a random dance party. It’s like all these people where it’s like, well, what will they think of me? Like, are they thinking I’m weird? Every time that I even just post 1 of the videos, I’m like, yeah, I’m weird. This is so cringy. Like, why do I, why am I doing this?

And so I think a lot of it is just like carrying what people think in a negative way, it has like really held me back a lot. And I think as well, perfectionism, I think that I struggle a lot with like, Oh, well, I want this to be just right. Or just perfect. Or if it’s not a certain way, I don’t want to do it.

And these challenges have been incredible. That’s one of the things that I feel like I’ve been overcoming a lot has been perfectionism. And I love art. I’m not an artist at all. Normally when it comes to art, I like will erase the lines and like, Oh, it just doesn’t look right. Or, you know, my pen or [00:24:00] my paintbrush strokes.

I’m like, Oh, like. Whatever, like I’ll just kind of doodle and not try anymore. Cause it doesn’t look the way that I want. And I’ve noticed like the other day I was painting and I was like, this is enjoyable. I like, don’t care if I mess up. And I just like felt like all of a sudden, a lot of these perfectionistic feelings that I hold myself to have started to go and started to leave.

So I would say perfectionism is another really big one. And , I would say just like. A lot of them are have been about, like, being more at peace with, like, who I am and like , just like how I talk to myself because I have a pretty negative, like, internal headspace. And so, yeah, I would say, like, they’re pretty similar things that I think everybody experiences, but it’s been really cool seeing how the more that goes on.

I’ve , tackled them the less, like the easier it is for me to show up to a challenge. So it’s been almost harder to create more challenges because now I’m like, Oh, [00:25:00] like I can do that. Or like, that’s not as hard. And so, yeah, it’s been really cool seeing the growth side of things.

Karen Papin: Yeah.

Becca Obeng: That’s cool.

Karen Papin: That’s cool to see that growth.

I, what drew me to, to your videos is how heartfelt they are. Like you can tell that you’re like completely in it and, and so, and you’re not, and you’re willing to, to show that. And, and so you’re an example to me, I struggle with that perfectionism as well, and just like putting myself out there so hard and, but to see you doing it, it’s I, I connected with that.

And so thank you so much for, for your willingness to do that and to continue to do that. And, and yeah, and it’ll be interesting to see how you navigate how your, . I don’t know [00:26:00] what the word is, but your level of tolerance. Yeah. Like almost like a threshold, I don’t know. It’ll be interesting to see, like, what you come up with to be able to

Becca Obeng: continue to do that.

Cool. Seeing how that’s like built up the confidence. Like, I feel like as I’ve gone on this quest to like figure out, okay, like what brings confidence and it’s been really cool. Cause now it’s like, oh, I can rise to that. Like I can do that. Like, Five months ago, I would have been like, no way, like not going to happen.

And now it’s cool to just be like, Oh yeah, like, no problem. Like, I’m like, who, where did this come from? But I really appreciate you talking about the vulnerability and showing up and just kind of being heartfelt. Cause I think that’s been something so challenging is because I feel like I’ll show up as my authentic self and just like show up emotionally and just like give so much that I’m just like, sometimes a lot of it has been like, What is this for?

And like, I just remember just like, not that social media matters, but like, I would just like, see like the [00:27:00] followers just decrease and it’d just be like, unfollow, unfollow, unfollow. And I’m like, I’m just pouring myself out here. And it’s just like, all these people like disinterested, you know, like, don’t like this message.

And it was just a really cool experience in a way where I felt like that was like a personal experience for me and the Lord of just kind of like, you know, Hey, like, so what if I have zero people watching on this? You know, like it doesn’t really matter what viewers. Like what numbers I have, but being able to develop this relationship with the Lord and just show up and share that with people has been, um, just like a really cool personal challenge in and of itself of just simply posting all of the challenges and , putting myself out there.

So that, that compliment really means a lot to me. So I appreciate that.

Karen Papin: So my next question is how, what do you do when. When you’re feeling that resistance, whether it is posting something or actually doing the challenge, what, what do you do to kind of overcome that?

Becca Obeng: Yeah, no, that’s a great, a great question.

[00:28:00] Still trying to figure that out all the time., No. So specifically in regards to, you know, like I’m, I’m pretty active. I try to be active on social media and I never want to show up as somebody who’s like, This is what you need to do. And that’s something where I’ve really wrestled with a lot is because in social media, I feel like it’s a lot of like.

Own the space, take the space, be the teacher. And I’m like, but I don’t feel like the teacher. I feel like I’m constantly the student. And so I’ve tried to have that approach of just kind of always sharing the things that I’m learning. And so a lot of times when I’m meeting resistance or meeting something that’s hard, instead of being like, I have these people listening in on my story and I need to show up and like, let them know I’m so brave and so like.

You know, on top of it, I’m like somebody else out there probably feels the exact same way that I’m feeling. So all of the posts are all for me and like giving myself a personal pump up and it just happens to like help and reach other people who feel the same way. But a lot of it has been like, okay, I feel this way.

I say a [00:29:00] prayer and I’m like, okay, I’m dumping this all. I’m like letting you know how I feel. And before I do any challenges, before I work on any of my videos, I always like read my scriptures. I’ll read a conference talk and I’ll tap in and I look for like a little nugget that just speaks to me and I will just keep going.

And some days I’m like, Kind of blase. I’m like, okay. Yep. I’m checking it in. And I’m like, but I’m not finishing until like just something screams and just jumps out at me. And some days it’s a little bit of a struggle is it’s like lightning and it’s immediate. And it’s like right there, but I try to make sure I just have some connection with the Lord.

And Yeah, some sometimes that’s just where I find my answer for that day where each day it’s been a totally different answer Some days it’s like hey, like get up and just keep going and don’t look back other days It’s like turn on the music and just dance and you’ll feel better other days It’s go for a walk and just go, you know, feel the fresh [00:30:00] air And so I feel like by tapping in every day with the Lord, it helps me That day’s need and , helps me know what I need to do that day.

But yeah, no, I think that that’s kind of my biggest thing is, yeah, I don’t feel like an expert in, in any way. And I, I feel like it’s more just me sharing my journey of how I’m trying to stumble my way through it and just kind of being an open journal with everybody. So I’m always looking for advice and suggestions that you have, but I’d say for me tapping in with the Lord and also talking with people that I feel like I can share.

I’m somebody who doesn’t open up very easily, which is funny because I’m sharing a lot about I’m struggling, but I’m somebody who , Is a really good listening ear for other people, but I maybe hold back on a lot of the things that I’m experiencing and don’t share them. And throughout this experience, I’ve learned the power of a friend that you can like, just share, you know, like, Hey, I’m feeling really anxious about this or Hey, like, I’m really nervous.

Like what advice do you have? Or what works for [00:31:00] you has been really helpful. And I think it’s just all like, Getting rid of your pride of like, we don’t need to, you know, have it all figured out or pretend like we know the answers, but just letting somebody else like teach you has been really helpful.

Karen Papin: It’s amazing. Just the power that comes from reaching out and connecting to others and how that can give us the strength and support that we need. And that that’s often the way that the Lord answers our prayers too, is just sending someone right when we need them, and keeping our eyes open too, for those people.

Becca Obeng: Yeah, no, it’s so true.

Karen Papin: So what has been Your favorite challenge that you’ve done so far?

Becca Obeng: Man, that is hard. There’s some that I’m like, I’m so proud of myself. And mom’s like, yeah, like good job. And those have been the singing ones. Cause I do not consider myself a singer like at all. And so I’ve been really proud of myself for like, Stepping out of my comfort zone on those ones where I’m like, okay, that was [00:32:00] really hard.

There’s some that just make me laugh really hard and like, bring out like the goofy side of me. And I just, yeah, I, I loved when I went to my best friend’s class, she’s a teacher and I had to like dress up as an archeologist and came in and I had like a British accent and pretended like we like created this whole backstory.

And like the kids believed, like I was this archeologist from England and they were like, so how many times have you been to Egypt? And like all of these. And I was like, okay, I can’t lie. And I’m like, I can’t tell you that answer. And so like, just like fun, goofy ones have just been really fun. That’s been one of the lessons I’ve been talking to my husband about lately is throughout these challenges, I’ve learned the power of play of just like letting loose and having fun.

And so many of these challenges bring that side of me that as an adult, it’s like, Oh, I can’t do that. I don’t have time for this or my to do list. And it’s like, Like, or if I play with my kids, am I like actually playing? Or is it more of like a checklist of like, yep, like hanging out with you, like check, but it’s been really fun letting loose.

And then there’s been like [00:33:00] spiritual powerhouse ones. One of my favorite ones is when I took flowers to the cemetery and the people that I greeted, I thought maybe I’d find somebody going and visiting, you know, a loved one at, you know, their, their site. But I was not expecting having a family. Literally just standing there staring at the road and having all the cars leaving because they had just finished burying , one of their, family members.

And it was, I just felt so nervous, like pulling up my car and I’m like, what am I supposed to say? Like, I don’t know what to say. I don’t have any answers. I’m not going to, I’m probably going to make it worse if anything. And I just remember walking up and taking them the flowers. And I’m like, this might sound so weird, but I’ve been planning on trying to find somebody who’s grieving.

And I just really wanted them to give these flowers and they just started bawling and I was just hugging these strangers in the cemetery and I was burying my testimony and I had this. Specific scriptures , that I wrote on this card that I wanted to share with them and it was just a really [00:34:00] spiritual , tender experience that I have.

So I have lots of experience like those that I, that have become like just , spiritual anchors in my heart. And so, yeah, I, I think we kind of cover it all from the goofy and silly to really spiritual and serious to just practical everyday. Things that I should just overcome. And so, yeah, it’s kind of been this whole , gamut of things, but I think if anything, I’ve just been really proud at every single time there’s been, no matter what the challenge, this feeling of like this high, it’s almost like this dopamine of just feeling on top of the world.

And before I’m like, Dreading this and I’m like questioning what I’m doing and I’m like, okay, I’m gonna keep going. And every single time I am like super excited. I’m super happy I’m super bubbly like I am a whole different person and I’m the person that I want to become After those experiences and so that’s something that helps me keep going is Every time I’m doing that, the result is like the [00:35:00] goal of where I want to be.

And so I just like, love that feeling afterwards. So yeah, I just, I really grown to love all the challenges, even though some of them have been really hard. Well,

Karen Papin: that one that you shared about going to the graveyard. And I think that that’s a wonderful example about how, as we embrace our divine worth, The more that we do.

So we embrace that divine confidence that comes from it. And then we are light to others. And, and so like that, that’s my passion here. And that’s why I’m doing this podcast. That’s why I’m a life coach is to help people, to be able to overcome the limiting beliefs that they have, to be able to step outside their comfort zone and let their light shine so that they can be that light.

Like you were to those people who were grieving,

Becca Obeng: you know? Yeah. No, it’s been, it’s been a really cool experience and that scripture of like letting your light shine [00:36:00] and Matthew. And I guess it’s in a couple of books, but , that one has been coming repeatedly to me like years now. It’s just like, anytime I’ve like, try to put, you know, becoming undaunted on the shelf or trying to, you know, maybe not do a challenge that scripture, like.

Yeah. It will, it will just come out of the blue unexpected. It’s always showing up. And that’s just been my answer is just be that light. And like, the more that I’ve like felt that darkness of like, you know, being in the failures or being in the like discomfort of it all, or the anxiety of it all, and like the mess of it all.

Every single time that I’ve tried to tap and reach for the light, it dispels the darkness every time. And so it’s just been really cool seeing how that, Will then radiate and help other people in those challenges. And, and like, I feel like every time we always leave with a smile and always feel connected and every time I’m like, that makes so much sense.

Like Satan was trying to get me to not connect with those people and not help them feel, you know, the love of the Lord. And so like, I’m like, Oh, duh. Like, of [00:37:00] course, that’s why I was having pushback against myself was because I was going to go and help somebody or help myself, you know, like both great things.

And so, yeah, like the, the light that has been able to help other people has been really, really rewarding.

Speaker 4: Well, thank you so much for, for sharing those experiences and being such an example and, and

Karen Papin: letting your light shine. I appreciate it. You’re an example to me. And I know that everyone listening to this will also be able to see that light as well.

 I’m wondering, what is your favorite divine worth scripture?

Becca Obeng: Exodus 3, 14. And that’s been recently where it talks about how Christ is I am, and I’ve shared a little bit about this, , on my page, but lately I’ve just been clinging to the words I am and how, since those are Christ’s words, whenever we use those words in our life, it’s, It, it represents and reflects him.

So when I look in the mirror and say, I am dumb or I am, you know, [00:38:00] fat or I, I’m not enough, or I don’t look like that. It’s like those pierce the soul. Those don’t feel good. And those are using his name and, and those aren’t true. And those are putting me down. But when I say like. I am brave. I’m strong. I’m beautiful.

I’m courageous. Like you feel good. And it’s like, that makes sense because you’re using his name in, you know, the positive way. And so when I think about divine worth and divine identity, reflecting on how we’re using the words I am, and when we’re using it in a holy approach and remembering that it’s his name that we’re using, it helps me remember to be really careful and really gentle with myself and how I’m saying, you know, like, I am brave, even if I’m not where like I want to be right now, I’m, I’m really proud of myself or I’m relying on the Lord right now.

I don’t know how to do this, but I am trusting in him. And so I think no matter where you are on the totem pole of confidence, like you can use, I am in a holy approach. [00:39:00] And, and yeah, I know a lot of people will talk about like how that can be like using his name in vain. I am in a negative way. And so, yeah, I’m like, Oh, like.

Yeah. No, I don’t want to do that. So like, it’s just really helped me, change. Like, I think like sometimes, like, we know we shouldn’t be saying like negative things to ourselves and we shouldn’t be saying like, I am in a negative way, but it just kind of happens sometimes. So the automatic negative thoughts like creep in there.

 And so, yeah, it’s been a, a game changer of a reminder for me. And it’s one of those things that can just like, you know, Zap the way that I think immediately and it’s helped me with my kids as well to just be like no We want to like treat that so gently and talk to ourselves so kindly like the Lord You know created us and our bodies and he’s proud of us and even if we mess up like we say that I’m still learning and You know, we go to him and he’ll help piece back the All the wrong and make it all good again.

And so, yeah, I just really love that reminder of I am and that he’s the great I am. And that, because of that, like, I am able to [00:40:00] be like him and to follow in his footsteps. And so, yeah, I just really love the symbolism in that.

Karen Papin: That’s a, that’s such a good point. I remember when they came out with the newer young women’s theme and those first words is I am a beloved daughter of heavenly parents with a divine nature and eternal destiny.

And I was just like, totally makes sense. Like I love the theme before, but when they added the words, I am, it just became so much more powerful. And yeah, So thank you for sharing that because when, when I saw that and I read that scripture, I was like, Oh, that is a really good one. And it’s not what I would have just came up, come up with about the top of my head.

So, so thank you for sharing that. What is one small and simple action those listening can take to embrace their divine worth and potential? Yeah, well, I would say get out of your comfort zone,

Becca Obeng: but,

 That can [00:41:00] be a huge mountain. And I think sometimes when people hear that, they’re like, okay, I need to go climb Mount Everest.

You know, like, I think that we think of like the highest one, like on my list is skydiving and that’s a whole other story, but I’m like, you don’t start with skydiving. You work your way up to skydiving, you know? And, and so I would say just find like, write down all of the things, like. That are You know, fearful or that intimidate you or make you feel like I don’t want to do that.

And if you think I don’t want to do that, write it down and then you can even order them from like easiest to hardest for one of my videos is literally going to the post office to drop off the mail that was on my counter for like four months. Like it seemed so ridiculous. I’m like, how, how is this, how is this purposeful?

Like it’s just mail and it’s just procrastination in its finest. But at the same. Time, like it still taught me the lessons that I needed to. So I would say write down a list of all the things that you don’t want to do and just start with the easiest one [00:42:00] and , see how you feel after, because I feel like every time you check off something on your to do list that you don’t want to do, you always feel better knowing that it’s either you faced it and it went great or it’s gone and you don’t have to worry about it anymore.

And you can like move past it. And , yeah. Yeah, it’s just been really cool seeing the Lord show up. And a lot of times, like every time I’ll pray and ask the Lord, help me know, like what challenge I need to do that day. Just because sometimes I’ll have like a challenge planned out. That’s what I’m going to do.

But I feel like a lot of the times the Lord will have me in a different place at a different time , doing something completely different. And so I always recommend like, you know, Including the Lord with what it is that you need to do. He knows the way that will , really help you not only just , overcome something that you need to, but he’ll help you have the spiritual experience or the spiritual lesson that you need to , learn from that.

And so , including him in those is so helpful, but yeah, I just, I was so surprised that. That would be the answer of finding confidence or divine worth or [00:43:00] connecting with the Lord. I just didn’t expect it. I thought that it would be a totally different answer and it’s just been absolutely life changing on how just by.

Facing those fears. I now get so excited and I, I really do ride that like, just like high in life, but that spiritual high as well. Cause the Lord really hasn’t let me fail. So I think don’t just go out of your comfort zone, like bring the Lord in the journey with you.

Karen Papin: Confidence is the result. It, a lot of times we’re like, Oh, I’m not confident enough.

And when really the confidence comes. After we go and we step outside our comfort zone. And so when, when I am feeling that fear, I remind myself. The Lord believes in me, he believes I can do that. And I can kind of borrow his faith and his belief in me. And, but that’s, that’s one way that I’m able to overcome those fears.

And, and step outside my comfort [00:44:00] zone. And then when I do it, it’s like, and, and celebrate each time you do too. Even if it seems like a small little thing, like what you were saying, it’s like, I went to the post office and it’s one of those more everyday kind of things. But if it’s something that is hard for you and you do it, embrace it and celebrate it and celebrate those successes along those ways, because it’s those small and simple things that make the difference.

Great things come to pass and that’s how we learn. That’s how we grow. And using another scripture here, line upon line, right? The Lord. No,

Becca Obeng: that exactly came into my mind too.

Karen Papin: Yes, exactly. Yeah. He, he teaches us line upon line and, and he has patience with us. And so if we, if we falter, if we fail, he’s right there and he understands, and he still believes we can do it.

Becca Obeng: I love that. I think like something that I always catch myself doing is like, well, that’s [00:45:00] not hard for that person. Why is it hard for me? And like, you can’t compare like what battles you’re facing or what’s out of your comfort zone compared to other people. Cause you’re in, you know, like you’re on your own path on your own lane that he has, you know, he’s aware of what.

You know, you need to overcome. And so I think like, by doing those little small steps, like you can’t just jump to the big one, but by doing those little ones every time and celebrating those successes, it’s also like keeping that focus and not worrying what other people are doing or what you’re not doing, but just like relying on what he’s asking you to do as well.

And , not getting into the comparison as well.

Karen Papin: Yeah, no, you keep your focus on him. And. And those other things that are trying to distract you, they fall back. So just keep your eye on him. Yeah. Well, Becca, thank you so much. Is, is there anything else that, that you would [00:46:00] like to share?

Becca Obeng: I’m just trying to think.

Not anything at the top of my head other than just, yeah, like my love for the Savior. I, I love him so much and he’s, you know, the reason why Becoming Undaunted, the logo of Becoming Undaunted is an olive branch and it, I didn’t want like a cross or I didn’t want something that, you know , you To me, an olive branch represents him and it represents , so much symbolism towards Jesus Christ.

And so every time I look at it, I’m just reminded of him showing up for me always. And , yeah, I just wanted to, you know, bear my testimony that he is there and sometimes life doesn’t make sense. And sometimes it’s like, well, why should I go out uncomfort at me? But , yeah. Like I said before, the answer is him every time, whether it’s going great, whether it’s going horrible or completely mundane, it doesn’t matter which stage of the spectrum you’re on in your life events, he’s always the [00:47:00] answer, and he’s always going to be the one that is there by your side, helping you pick up the pieces, cheering you on, knowing that you’re not alone, coming to gather you, All of, you know, whatever one applies to you and your story, he is the one who will help you.

So bring him into your story and , don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone and let him comfort you while you, you intentionally choose to step out of your comfort zone. yeah, I just, I love him and I, I just didn’t want to , get off of this without , sharing that testimony of , just, yeah, how he is there for us.

Thank you so much. Yeah, he shows up. He’s always there.

Karen Papin: , where can

Becca Obeng: people find you? Yeah, so you can find me at becoming undaunted , that’s my social media and , yep. You can find all of the wild challenges over there and I sprinkle all sorts of videos in between. And like I said, they’re mainly just letters to myself.

So everything that you find on there, it’s kind of my journal and my diary [00:48:00] on how I respond to all of the things that I’m feeling. So yeah. Bye.

Karen Papin: I love it. I love it. okay. Well, thank you so much for coming today and, and thank you. If you have found this podcast to be a light, please share it with others at our labor review, which helps others find the podcast as well.

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